Sunday, November 14, 2010

Voyage of happiness – The beginning

The start of my new life was the same as everyone, when you start have a mental picture of your soul mate and life partner. Usually at early ages and at our teen, we would have created our partner based on some movie star. One time we were talking about this topic and I was kinda shocked kinda passed out from laughing when my mate say that the girl final fantasy characters is his mental picture of his dream girl and he even went further to say actually she is his dream girl and still is ?!!

Anyway I know there is itching desire inside you right now to know who was my dream girl? or what was my mental picture of ideal partner. Well to be honest I feel like been a total pain in the neck and not telling you , … ok I will tell you , my well not really one , but I use and actually still like JLO , Angelina Jolie and my all time favorite which am sure going to be surprise for a lot of you is Drew Barrymore. Most of us grow up( excepts for some individual who still living in his teen life while he is in the 40th ) and that picture get more mature , and we spicy it up with more serious ingredients.

In part two of my journey to my new life , I will share with you few of the ingredients that I have seen and what I thought or still think and believe are very important for a happy marriage and a beautiful new life. Just understand that here am not talking about essential ingredients and I am not talking about the basics that all have to be there. Some of the basics are good family, religion and respectful etc. the following some of the ingredients that I have based my new life on and some of which I believe that would make the marriage life lovable and meaningful:
· Understanding: knowing and understanding is the basic and most important ingredient that every marriage need. Every person have his/her needs all these needs have to be satisfied or fed and without a prior knowledge and understanding the other person will find it very hard to live up to the expectations
· Communication: effective and good communication skills are important to resolve any miss understanding or conflict. It very important to know when and how to communicate. This ingredient is very important to enable you effectively handle any conflict and have a health and happy relationship
· No blame and nonjudgmental attitude: this very important , blaming culture is a killer for every relationship and you should never judge your partner and shall always try to understand and forgive , and If you forgive never ever to bring back in any conversion
· Commitment: this very hard one and personally it take me while until I felt that I am ready for the committed life. The couple should be both willing to committee their life for each other. They willing to stand for each other and support each other in everything. they should be willing to be couple , lover and close friends
· Appreciation : the spouse should always have appreciation for each other
· Humility: the person should have a touch of humility and modesty. Stubborn spouse is a pain in the neck for the marriage life , as this ingredient help and improve the willingness for the couple to adjust and create teachable sprit inside them
· Financial planning: what do I mean by this, first most of the small problem or even major conflict in marriage life comes from misunderstanding regarding the financial planning. Hence having a harmonious couple financial plan is sign of happy marriage
· Sense of humor : I think the couple should have some sense of humor and be able to laugh and make each other laugh

These were few of the ingredients that made my dream partnerand for thus people who wondering did I get my wish and asking if my partner have any of the above. I would say yes , most of what I want and even more than I have dreamed of , she is amazing in everything and that make me so happy and luck. that why I can look forward for a happy new life

PS. Wait for part three of my journey to happy life

Friday, November 12, 2010

أبجديات ما قبل النوم



سالني احدهم
هل ما زلت تكتب الشعر
فاجبته بقول محمود درويش
"هل ما زال الشعر ضرورياً؟
وهل ما زال الشعر ممكناً؟"

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اليوم امر بحالة شوق ووجدان
وبصدفه سمعت في الميذياع من يقول ان العرب تستخدم كلمة "شوقي" مرادف ل" حبيبي "
وهوا متعارف عليه في الاغاني والقصيد
ولكن ماذا اذا كان الشوق ناتج عن الحبيب هل لا يزال الحبيب يسمى شوقي
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انا بين النوم والسهاد
كلما اغمضت عيني اجدني احدق في عينيها
أحدق و أرى حلم جميلا
أرى حلم مقبل
أرى زمنا يتبدل
أرى لغة لا تفهم
أرى قديستى تتجمل
نعم انها هيا
قدستي هناك تنتظر
هيا أجمل
هيا احلى
وافنح عيني و أرى النور
واغمضها و أرى النور
هما الاثنين نور و نور
بل هيا اجمل من نور المصباح
فالمصباح لا حاجت له في النهار
وقديستي لا استغني عنها لا باليل ولا النهار


Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Voyage of happiness –Breaking news

Recently my younger brother has started his new life by getting engaged and I never thought that the start of his happiness would be the start of stressful period of me. Although that stress from people whom related or not been there for while, like am the only bachelor in town?!

Anyway in that day, me and my cousin decide to spice the day by confusing everyone by sitting next to my brother fully dressed. the good part most of our relative whom was coming for the small family party we had have no clue who is who and most of them can not distinguish between us. Anyway it was fun for while until everyone recognizes that the younger brother was the one whom getting married and than everyone was asking why he is getting married before his brother. Anyhow, my brother is happily engaged and am happy for him. however , every time I see anyone would ask me two question , why your brother get married before you , and why you not married yet ? ..daaaah , the answer damn obvious , he found his soul mate , and he started his life ,, what was wrong in that , marriage dose not have to be in any specific order and there is no law say that younger brother or sister have to wait for his/her older siblings.


I know some of you already confused and wondering where the heck am going with this. Anyway here we are the breaking news for this year, 2010
“Yes I have finally crossed the line “

Recently, after long waited period specially my mum, I have decided that I will start my new life specially that I have meet a very special person and I feel that I am the luckiest ever person and here I am engaged

yah , I am finally going to loss the “single” status and am sure the famous “singles gang “ gunna miss one lousy member , so hard to say good bye to them but so happy to be something for someone ,, it’s a beautiful feeling

so I know you want details , lol but sorry I am not gunna tell you anything more now , but I promise you all, that I will tell you the whole story in parts soon as it happen

Finally I am engaged
Finally I am happy
Moreover, since that day the joy and happiness have been filling my daily routine andand the smiles never left my lips