You, as of now, are someone else! -Mahmoud Darwish

Previously in one of my post, specifically this one
http://reef4ever.blogspot.com/2009/05/blog-post.html
I have promised my English only reader to post the translation of this piece of art for Mahmoud Darwish and again I highlighted the line in red

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Was it inevitable for us to fall from such heights, and see our blood on our hands… for us to realize that we are no angels… as we used to think? Was it also necessary for us to expose our genitals to everyone, to make sure our reality is no longer a virgin?
Such liars were we when we said: We are exceptional!

To believe yourself is much worse than lying to someone else! To be friendly with those who hate us, and ruthless to those who love us – this is the inferiority of the conceited, and the arrogance of the situation!

Oh past, do not change us… the further away we move from you! Oh future: do not ask us: who are you? And what do you want from me? We too have no clue. Oh present, bear with us a little, we are no more than dreary passers by!
Identity is our legacy and not our inheritance; our invention and not our memory. Identity
is the ruin of the mirror that we should break as soon as we like our image! He put on a mask, put on courage, and killed his mother… because she was the easiest prey… and because a female soldier stopped him and exposed her breasts asking: Does your mother have breasts like these?
If it wasn’t for modesty and darkness, I would have visited Gaza, without knowing the road to the new house of Abu Sufian, nor the name of the new prophet. If Mohammad hadn’t been the last of the prophets, each gang would have had its own prophet, and each companion a militia! We admired June in its 40th anniversary; if we can’t fine someone to defeat us again we defeat ourselves with our own hands, lest we forget!

No matter how long you stare into my eyes, you will not find my gaze there. It has been kidnapped by a scandal! My heart is not mine… and it is no one’s. It has claimed independence, without turning into stone. Does he who chants over the body of his victim-brother: “Allahu Akbar”, know that he is an infidel, since he sees God in his own image: lesser than a well formed human being?

The prisoner, eager to inherit the prison, hid his smile of victory from the camera. But he did not succeed in restraining the happiness streaming from his eyes; perhaps because the rushed text was much stronger than the actor. Why do we need Narcissus, as long as we’re Palestinians, and as long as we don’t know the difference between the Jame’ (mosque) and the Jame’ah (university), both words having the same root. What need to we have for a state… as long as it is moving, along with the days, towards the same destiny?

A large sign at the door of a nightclub: We welcome Palestinians returning from battle. Free entry! Our alcohol… doesn’t get you drunk! I cannot defend my right to work, as a shoe polisher by the sidewalks, because my clients have the right to consider me a shoe thief – this is what a University professor told me!

“The stranger and I will join forces against my cousin. My cousin and I will join forces against my brother. My Sheikh and I will join forces against me.” This is the first lesson in the new national education curriculum. In the abyss of darkness, who will go to heaven first? He who died with enemy bullets or he who died by his brother’s bullets? Some jurisprudents say: Thou shalt have an enemy born from your mother’s womb! The fundamentalists do not annoy me; their secular supporters infuriate me, as do their atheist supporters who only believe in one religion: their images on TV! He asked me: Can a hungry guard defend a house whose owner has traveled to spend his summer vacation in the French or Italian Riviera… whichever one? I said: No he doesn’t! And he asked: does myself + myself = two? I said: you and you equal less than one!

I am not ashamed of my identity, it is still under construction. But I am ashamed of some of what is written in the Ibn Khaldoun introduction: You, as of now, are someone else!

I am Sorry (2)

في بعض الاحيان تعجز الكلمات عن البوح بما في الصدر
وكم هيا صعبه لحظات الاعتذار
ولكن الانسان يخطي مرات
وانا اعترف
واعتذر
لم احد اجمل من كلمات الامير الشاعر عبدالرحمن بن مساعد و التى شدا بها فنان العرب
ولكم قراثى هذه الكلمات
ولك انت يامن اخطات في حقك

جم اعتذاري

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أخطيت
أنا مدري وش إحساسك
ومدري وش تظنيني
أنا الصادق في عينك كنت
و صرت الكاذب الخوّان
أنا أخطيت ما انكر ولافيه عذر يكفيني
سِـوا اني احبك حيل واني دايما ً انسان
انا ادري بمدى جرحك
وادري الحظ جافيني
يطول الوقت ما أخطي
وإذا أخطيت كل شي ٍ بان
انا شفت الزهر مايل
وظنيته يناديني
قطفته .. يوم ضميته .. لقيته للأسف ذبلان
عرفت انك زهر عمري
عرفت انك بساتيني
وغيرك قيض مايروى .. سرابٍ يشقي العطشان
انا لو ماحصل ماكان وشهو اللى يدرّيني
بأنك ماسواك انتى .. سكنتى القلب والوجدان
انا اسف على اعذاري
عجزت ألقى عذر فيني
يليق بغلطتي في حقك ويرجع كل شي ٍ كان
احبك كثر أخطائي
وادري انك تحبيني
وادري لو تفارقنا فلا نقدر على النسيان
اذا تقوي على فراقي وبعدي عنك .. خليني
انا مليت من دور الكرامة
ولعبت الغفران
قليل العمر ياللي انتي دموعك ما تساويني
حرام انه يضيع فراق
هي من قلها الأحزان

I am sorry

Tonight i am feeling so bad

I am feeling so lost
I just wish this day was a dream

I wish to wake up tomorrow and the pain is not there
But I know tomorrow will be soon here

and your pain is still there
I don’t know what to do, this can not be true
I just have one thing to say to you,

I love and am truly sorry for the pain I caused you

Artist: The Platter

Song : i am sorry

If Tomorrow Never comes

Endless is the search for truth in a world of mirrors,
Hence ,

Put the music up and Light your cigar and sip your wine
Don’t forget that It is just another short summer night
Tomorrow will be better; tomorrow your love will be back

Summer is the Marriage Season!? BUT what after Marriage

I apologize ahead of time that this post will be long but this topic been in my mind lately and I needed to express my thought

Summer is the marriage season as we all know. The last few weeks i have been invited for so many wedding and

engagement parties, that i haven’t even been able to cover not even 20% of them. Dose not mean am not social guy but they are so many of them in the same time. However, I have called couple of guys to congratulate them and wish them a great life, but unfortunately I couldn’t hear or sense that satisfaction and happiness. Moreover, this is very noticeable with older couples (two year and above). Which make me really wonder, what going to happen to this couple in few years? what is the relationship going to look like

Am 100% sure they will be love or at least in most of the situation. However, before we wonder around in the love story and the fact that they are going to love each other or not . Let’s define love. Funny enough every time someone ask me (have you been in love before? . I answer define love to me , and believe me that a hard question). Hence let me put some light in this matter and let me state the definition of love as it stated in Wikipedia:
‘Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure ("I loved that meal") to intense interpersonal attraction ("I love my boyfriend"). This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states. [Ref-1]

So basically love can be anything, and can take any shape. Basically my car has been with me for almost three year and i really love it so much. That is companionship love. So if car and it can be loved, what about human that you can interact with him/her. Hence eventually they will love , but my question is will they be any romance. That is the main factor. This factor is what i thinks missing from a lot of relationships. And it’s a big factor that people ignoring or tend to forgot about.
One might say , that romance love have very short span and will die once you live together and that what made Oscar Wilde say : (One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry.) [Ref-2]

Which i dont agree and thanks to Dr. Bianca P. Acevedo form University of California, Santa Barbara she confirm in her research that Romantic love can last a lifetime and lead to happier, healthier relationships.
According to Dr. Bianca P. Acevedo research romance can survive in long-term relationships and helps improve many couples' satisfaction. Acevedo says that people often erroneously believe that romantic love and passionate love are the same. “Romantic love has the intensity, engagement and sexual chemistry that passionate love has, minus the obsessive component.” She adds that passionate or obsessive love helps drive shorter relationships but not longer ones.

Acevedo and co-researcher Arthur Aron, reviewed 25 studies with 6,070 individuals in short- and long-term relationships to find out whether romantic love is associated with more satisfaction. The researchers classified the relationships in each of the studies as romantic, passionate (romantic with obsession) or friendship-like love and categorized them as long- or short-term.

In conclusion she said:
(Contrary to what has been widely believed, long-term romantic love (with intensity, sexual interest, and engagement, but without the obsessive element common in new relationships), appears to be a real phenomenon that may be enhancing to individuals’ lives— positively associated with marital satisfaction, mental health, and overall well-being. These conclusions suggest a dramatic revision of some theories and careful attention to measures of love that include or exclude obsession. In terms of real-world implications, the possibility of intense long-term romantic love sets a standard that couples (and marital therapists) can strive for that is higher than seems to have been generally considered realistic. This could also be distressing for long-term couples who have achieved a kind of contented, even happy—but not intensely romantic—status quo, assuming it is the best anyone can expect. Couples benefit from downward social comparison with other couples and will even distort their evaluation of their own relationship to an objectively unrealistically positive view (Rusbult et al., 2000). Yet, a shocking recognition of possibilities, that a long-term marriage does not necessarily kill the romance in one’s relationship, may give some couples the inspiration they need, even if challenging, to make changes that will enhance their relationship quality (and thus general well being). [Ref -3]

And she finally ended the amazing article with this question: Could Oscar Wilde be wrong?

I will leave the answer of that question for you all. However, I am sure there is hope for all of young couples who just get in with their life. And I hope to really see new people with better personality and great mentality. I wish to see more romantic love among us. And been in man society as the man he is the main driver, I ask you all man out there to look at this article and think, are you romantic enough for your beloved one, are you doing enough. Also for all women out there, men love changes. Cooking and taken care of house and kids is not all what he want. He needs your love and passionate. He needs your romance.

Am going to stop here but am sure this topic will never stop. And this page will never finish cause while am writing this article I get another text massage and guess what the massage is about. I guess you have got it right, wedding invitation……

a request , for all people out there, if you like this article and you know any new couple or you have friend that is in the way to the new life. Please forward him/her this article gives him/her the hope and the right advice and let’s works toward a better happy and loving society. Let us hope for a society with healthier and happier relationships

Reference
Ref-1: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love
Ref-2: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/o/oscarwilde143462.html
Ref-3: Article: “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” Bianca P. Acevedo, PhD, and Arthur Aron, PhD, Stony Brook University; Review of General Psychology, Vol. 13, No. 1.
(Full text of the article is available from the APA Public Affairs Office and at http://www.apa.org/journals/releases/gpr13159.pdf)