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The last couple of weeks have been very interesting and unpredictable from all aspect. A lot of things were going on in very busy and hectic working period. For local employee in my company summer usually is not fun especially if you are bachelor. First of all, most of the experts take their annual leave in summer understandably why!! If I was in their shoes of course I would run away from 50 degC temperature and 98% humidity. and been bachelor your good local college will use the normal expired poor excuse that they have to take their kids out and the only time they can take leave is during summer when their kids are not on school ( even if they don’t have any kids !!). Anyway, for me it is not big deal because personally I don’t like to take leave in summer unless I will run away from here, which I have no plan to do that this year.

As preparation for summer, I want and bought TV satellite set and finally my TV that I have bought in 2006 will finally be switch on. Actually my TV hate me so much for what I did for it and it went broken with electrical circuit faults only after three hours of operation. I don’t blame it as more than 3 year ago , it was the luckiest TV between the 100s of unit that was laying on the floor of Carrefour , that day it though thinking that this my day , this the day I will be free and I will see all the channels. The happiness of my new TV was even greater when it get to be connected to home theater speakers with 250 Watt amplifier. But that was last time I have seen the smile face on my beloved TV , except the few days when my brother visit me and bring some DVD, actually in the end my TV was in total love with my brother and wait for his visited patiently. Anyway, I have fixed all that between me and my TV, and now we good friends and I am regularly in front of its screen. TV was installed and every thing was ready for summer and specially the world cup 2010.

World cup 2010, ammmm where shall I start …….
This year was Africa turn to organize the world cup and surprisingly it has been really amazing. to be honest , I had a big doubt on this world cup and I was ready for disappointment but I am so happy that it turned good despite the fact few things happens in the beginning. unfortunately, the disappointment came when the German won against Argentina, I never seen such game , Argentina had all the ball and all the position and Germany was hitting them in the run and in counter attach same exactly they did to England. but at the end , Spain deservedly won it and am so happy as they were playing well and they were playing neat football. The high point on the World cup I think is Madonna, this guy is amazing, and he is a legend. I know he is not a good coach yet , but I am sure he will win the world cup in Brazil… that would be fun to win in the land of the enemy ( ).. but he is great , and thanks to his dog when he bite his lips and he needed 10 stitched to redo his lower lip , as he grow his beard and it was looking great on him… the low side I would say was the noise coming from the omnipresent Vuvuzela horns. Gosh I would rather be faced with the horn of a rampaging rhino than the Vuvu equivalent, which are blown, blared or driven through your ear hole during each game.

In the personal side, finally I have started first step on building my own house. The experience of dealing with building contractor is the worse ever experience and I never seen more deceiving people like the contractor.

Finally, few weeks ago was my birthday (am not that fussy with birthday) but this day was a great day, I had the best day ever and so wired that little things that have a big effect on our feelings. I think I owe one person all the happiness and joy I had in such memorable day

I guess am leading now where so am going to stop now specially my black coffee is almost finished and I feel that I need refill

Note to self

Today i have learned the hard way. Life has given me a harsh and tough lesson, Lesson that left my tears watering my pale face.

Life taught me that when you want to achieve something for someone, make sure you do not hurt that person on the way. Otherwise, you would never feel the joy out of it even if you highly successful in your achievement

Life taught me that in stressful situation trust your heart to guide you and in tense situation you always can trust your brain.

Life taught me that love is the most important things on life, and the person whom you love should be always the first no matter what.

Life taught me that love is respect and respect is love. If you show less respect than you showed no love at all.

Life taught me that “Value has a value only if its value is valued “

From here and there

Well it is almost midnight and for some mysterious reasons it seems that i can not sleep. Lately life not been treating me nicely and the stress level have been greater than to be handled that why i have dropped sick the last few day.I have really miss my blog and i been trying to find time as i have promised myself to come here (my blog ) more often this year but so far i couldn’t fully honour that promise but i will keep trying my best.

So from here and there, where can i start , so let me start with my physical condition, i am always seen thing from positive way, i always think that everything that happen to us have positive and negative aspects. So it all turns to how we look at it. Anyway, the interesting part is while am so sick Last Friday and i think i was talking to myself, (thanks god no one was around or i would be the joke of the week), i found out the human being turn to very sensitive and needy person while he is weak. Which is not new as Max-Neef have classified that as to human fundamental need in his Fundamental human needs theory. Hence its very normal that that people seek s to overcome feelings of illness and weakness by mean of giving and receiving love, affection and importantly the sense of belonging. I am not going to dwell in this a lot as the topic of fundamental human needs is large and I can keep talking about it all night long. However, the note here is that person sometime become needy when sick and when these needs are satisfied, the person feels self-confident and valuable as a person in the world. When these needs are frustrated, the person feels inferior, weak, helpless and worthless. This actually reminds me with one lovely txt messages I have received ages ago which I never understood except when I came across Max-Neef theory, the txt was saying:

“Our true colours shows at our strongest and weakest points ...and so are the colours of others”

Now lets move to another place, personally am one of the people who hate Al Batinah road. I guess people from home know why. This vital route in Oman and every day you see couple of tragic accidents which take the life of our youth. If we think for a moment we will find that everyone of us , have lost someone in that road ( family member , relative , or friend ). Anyway cut the story short, today while flipping through the day paper I saw this headline in Times of Oman which made me jump from my bed

“Flyovers and tunnels to replace 54 intersections in AL Batinah “

I said to myself wow finally and I was so happy, than I started to read the whole topic and my smile was getting bigger and bigger. So existed that the ministry of Transport and ROP finally realize that something have to be done. It’s a great step and I am so happy. However, when I finish reading the story I just realized that they going to close the intersections ONLY now and there is nothing mention about when is the plan will start to construct the flyovers. Have they thought about the consequences of this step and what is going to do to the traffic? I can ensure you that the traffic jams at the roundabouts will increase drastically. Hence I wonder what is the mitigations and what measures have been taken to tackle this issues, I think none… hence as usual we try to solve one problem and we rush to the solution, we gave HALF answer which for me not acceptable they should start construction the flyover and gradually close the intersection and not close 54 intersection all at once.. Anyway personally I have an alternative route which I usually take and I will keep avoiding this route

Anyway, Talking about Half answer, I have read lately something related to this and it really made me laugh. So now , we have a bright new writer who have created new name for Zawj friend and he called it “Half marriage ©” [ I had to put the copy right log ,as I heard he is been trying to get the copy right for this name after the article be published in several blogs and news site including CNN… ammm it seem CNN running out of topics]. Anyway, for people who doses not know what Zawj friends, it is actually boy friend – girlfriends relationship. This kind of zawj is very commonly know in Europ and USA between Muslim students who like to have relationships but still have it under the Islamic . the main justification was given for this kind of marriage was the high cost of marriage and to protect the people. However this to me not a solution its half solution which don’t work , with marriage its either all or not. My only support for this is a little story that I have experience, back in UK we where discussing same topic with Muslim who live in UK and as you can expected some was supportive some was against. Hence I didn’t try to defend my point of view a lot , what I did I took the leader of that group , ie the big supporter who actually he have done it . I took him a side and I asked him sarcastically:

“I totally agree with you and am glad that you open minded, hence that why I would like to ask you to marry you sister as Zwaj friend “

Do you really wanna know what was his answer? The fact that I had a black eye for three days because f that question, so I think you can make the conclusion yourself.

To get to the point, in our society, there are so many taboos and subjects we do not speak about concerning intimacy, relating and sex, that we literally become isolated within our own thoughts, conditioning and beliefs. However, I think when we try to solve or discus something as sensitive as this we should give real answer and not just try to reform or re call something. Try to fit in that to yourself and look it from both way if you think it is valid and worth publishing that everyone will welcome that . Personally Marriage is noble relationship, that no one should touch, it the ultimate of all relationships. Finally this my personal view and I am not mocking anyone here but this really made me laugh and finally it was really good effort for omanization of the zawj friend concept and really well presented. But I wonder what will the writer reaction will be if someone asked him the same question above?!!!!!!!!!

Moreover, lately I have been accused by been very idealistic and pessimistic. The fact is that I am completely the opposite as I consider myself very optimistic; however I am also realistic. Regarding idealistic, I wonder what wrong in striving to be ideal. I agree we do not live in ideal world but what is wrong on trying to drive our world and society perfection or to better one. Why do I have to accept all what I have inherited from other?!!


Finally, I would like to state and emphasis that when i write about something sad and sore (either personal or social), I don’t want you to cry and feel the pain but I would like you to change that sad face of the whole world. As its our duty to understand that sometime there is no hope but we have to change it and our life have to continue. To emphasis on that once more let me try to put it in different language:

احبتي : عندما نكتب عن أشياءمحزنه لا نطلب منكم البكاءوالألم،بل لتغيروا ذلك الوجه الحزين للعالم؛لأنه علينا، في نهايةالمطاف أن نفهم، أن كل الأشياء من غير أمل ولكن مع ذلك علينا أن نغيرها فالحياة ببساطة يجب أن تستمر

Now am going to leave you with this quote

“Money can’t buy happiness but somehow, its more comfortable to cry in a BMW than on a bicycle ...”

Just not easy !!!

Missing someone is not easy
It kills the spirit in you and poisons the love inside you…

Hurting someone is not easy
It kills the beauty of spirit and poisons the care inside you …..

Writing these words is not easy
It kills my mind and poisons my heart ……

Beautiful day, Ruined by MM

What a beautiful weather that our lovely city is passing by today, I just took my lunch break and my dark black Columbian blend coffee and start driven around near the beach enjoying the weather. But suddenly the rain a bit increases and the water start to overflow and fill the entire road. The drivers start to put on their black masks and start driving and fighting (yes they seem more of fight rather than driving). I understand that the road condition is bad, thanks to MM (Muscat Municipality). Who I think should be given the prize for the worse ever drainage system in the world. Despite all the signs that we seen from previous rains and the accident /delays caused by r it seem that MM the last to notice. If they have ever notice, and what really pissing me off and drive me nut , that even the new roads been design without a drainage system. FOR GOD SEEK wake up , I am gunna stop talking about MM design as even old people can see how stupid they look , two weeks a go I took my grandpa who lived most of his life in the village to new reconstructed Al-Qurum beach. and while we sitting I he said I want coffee and I said let us go to the café in front of us (Starbucks). Than he left his head and looked at it and he say, what a stupid design why the road is in the seaside and the restaurant and café the roadside , GO GET ME MY COFFEE AM NOT MOVING FROM HERE, and he called me stupid ( although I had nothing to do with that design). Moral of the story, even a 70 year old whom never been in the beach would easily spot such a mistake and such stupid design. They have done it before and when the cyclones came and toke it all in pieces. They still have done it the same way… Gosh when they gunna wake up from their old deep deep sleeping,,, am gunna stop cause they really hate to be disturb when they sleeping and I might get punish for it.. so ishhhhhh be quite PPL as been quite is what we are famous of

Anyway, can’t also ignore to notice how naïve and uneducated are most of the drivers in Muscat. I recently came from India (Mumbai ) and you can not imagine how busy the road in there , but what I really liked , the traffic was always moving and everyone open space and help each other. all what you need to do is HORN and everyone will open space for you. No one get upset if you cut them, and that what I really adore, the traffic always in harmony, and always moving.
I wish one day in Muscat that you see people helping each other in the road and you see less people driving in the side of the road trying to cut you off. I guess maybe we can hope that our kids will enjoy that in 100 years as honestly with the mentality of the people we having right now, we would never get there. It is my dream and I wil keep dreaming !!!

Finally, I’m gunna be walking in the rain again … I MISS the RAIN

Happy New Year

Here we are again, one year passed and another year is coming. the fact that most of time we find yourself sailing in very deep and fast moving stream and other time you find yourself sailing in wild calm sea. although sailing in the sea is seem like more relaxing however , you always tend to see yourself lost and you really don’t know where you going. the same for the stream it just take you where it want and you became slave for the time and the stream you just follow its path without the ability to change your direction.
So which one is better?
I really don’t know.
All what I know I have been flipping between these two modes and I always find myself lost in between.
However, here we are rolling the last days in 2009 and moving toward a near year. Hence I think it always good to sit with yourself and reflect in 12 months that have passed by, what the low points, what the high points, what things that really disturbed you, what made you happy. What made you sad, etc
For me, 2009 wasn’t that high profile year, have not really accomplished any thing major, it has been a very quite year. Which I really regret, I should been more proactive, more upfront, however I think the main problem I never had clear vision, nor had a clear goals. My goal setting was lack of enthusiasm and lack of organization. That is why this year I would like to set more clear goals and less number of them. I always find so hard to achieve a lot of goals in one year and if you over load yourself, you will end up with nothing.

Hence I thought I will try to make plan for 2010 and come with 2010 resolution. However, before that I wanted to do quick research about the art of goal sitting. The interesting part that I found out that the traditional goal-setting wisdom has taught us that a good goal must be a) written, b) challenging, c) believable, d) specific, e) measurable, and f) have a specific deadline. There are several checklist methods for goal sitting and all of came from the old technology: pen and paper. The old-school of goal-setting suggested that people write down goals on a small slip of paper and keep it in their wallet or purse. Unfortunately, suffice to say that most of this paper will always end up dissolving into lint. However, these days there is software and more recently some websites (mostly payable) which can help you plan and track your goals. I found out that these websites are practical but also tedious and very complicated for personal use; however they are good for corporate planning.

I always wondered “what makes a good goal plan?” The best answer I found state that a good Goal plan is one that when followed, offers a reasonably high probability of success, given sufficient time.

Finally from this quick research I found out that the best steps to make a great plan are:
1-pick limited number of goals
2-make clear and realistic plan
3-Anticipate problems
4-pick start and end date
5-Go for it and work hard
6-accept failure
7-plan reward

I would like to emphasis in the last one, always plan a reward for yourself, this is your personal goal and when you achieve it, you should reward yourself with something so you will taste the happiness and pleasure out of it.

So here is my main resolution for 2010. I resolve in 2010 to:
1-finish building my house
2-continually go to gym and get my fitness level up
3-improve my job competence profile
4-continually update my blog
5-get engaged



Finally, May the New Year (1431 & 2010) bring these Wishes to you all
Health, inside you

Happiness deep down within

Company and support of family & friends

A caring heart that accepts & treats all human beings equally

Enrichment of knowledge and richness of diversity

Courage to seek & speak the truth even if it means standing alone

Hopes and dreams of a just world and the desire to make it happen

A light to guide your path Helping hands to strengthen unitySerenity and peace within your mind, heart & soul

Food for thought & soul

A hand to hold

Happy New Year!!!!!!!

Tête à Tête

First of all , its very late eid wishes , but eid mubark everyone and hope you all had great holiday , also I know it been long time since my last blog.

Well today was my first day back at work after few weeks off, and it was such a long day. However, the holiday was very relaxing and lazy time. For first time since I don’t remember when I stayed for long time at home , just with family and lazing around and sleeping and eating. I know what you think, yes I gain few pounds but gunna burn them soon …
As always after long time, it would be the time to chit-chat and get and hear all the news from all the places. In the end of the day, people love to spread news and you can not help it , you always wanna hear more.

Top of list was the end of year ranking , which really wasn’t my interest but had to listen to it several time. Second, and all time favorite was WHEN U GUNNA GET MARRIED. I just don’t know when people gunna get bored of that question. Anyway, if you also wondering than, I would just say it’s going to be soon. Don’t ask me what soon mean because that very subjective.
Another , one that really pissed me off , that everyone kept asking me” what happen to Chelsea “ , for God seek we were winning 5-0 and 4-0 and we cut Arsenal apart , and we screw up Man-U and no one say what happen , and we lost once and every one now taken the piss out. Seem like everyone had kept it in their heart and we so jealous about the success, but don’t worry traitors, Chelsea still in the top you like it or not.

The only interesting chat I had is about world cup draw, Argentina had nice draw although I wish Greece wasn’t in same group as my fav. Team. Also I will be very interesting to see England vs USA , and Brazil vs Portugal… I have full analysis of the draw but really cant bother to go one coz I feel sleepy and tired.

Finally , here is a nice quote I have get last week , which really mean a lot.

Achieving success is just like being pregnant..Everyone congratulate you on the outcome but no one knows how many times you get FU**CKED